One of the most common questions couples ask me is, “Should we have a first look?”
A first look can change the flow of your day, your timeline, and even the overall energy of your wedding. Because it matters so much, I wanted to create a simple and helpful guide to walk you through the pros and cons.
As a wedding photographer, I’ve seen first looks in every type of setting — from big celebrations to quiet, intimate elopements. This guide will help you decide if it’s the right choice for you two.
What Is a First Look?
A first look is a moment when the couple sees each other before the ceremony.
It’s usually private, quiet, and emotional.
Some couples choose it for the timing benefits, while others prefer the traditional walk-down-the-aisle moment.
Why You Might Want a First Look
1. More Time Together
During a first look, you get a calm moment to breathe, connect, and enjoy each other.
It can ease nerves and create space for emotions that feel difficult in front of a crowd.
2. A Smoother Timeline
A first look often gives you extra time for portraits before the ceremony.
Because of this, your timeline feels less rushed.
You can also spend more time with guests during cocktail hour.
3. More Photos and Better Light
Since you’re not racing the sunset after the ceremony, you usually get more portraits.
This often means better light, more variety, and a relaxed pace.
4. A Private, Emotional Moment
While the aisle moment is amazing, a first look lets you react freely.
You can hug, cry, talk, and be yourselves without an audience.
Reasons to Skip a First Look
1. You Love the Tradition
Many couples want the classic moment of seeing each other at the altar.
If that’s important to you, honor it.
2. You Want the Emotions During the Ceremony
Some couples feel most connected during the walk-down-the-aisle moment.
This can be powerful and meaningful.
3. You Prefer a Later Start
Skipping a first look allows for a slower morning and a simpler schedule.
This works well if you’re having a shorter celebration or eloping.
A First Look Isn’t Required — It’s a Choice
There is no “right” way to plan your wedding day.
A first look can add calm and connection, but the traditional aisle moment can feel emotional and exciting too.
Focus on the experience that feels true to your relationship.
How to Decide
Ask yourselves these questions:
- Do we want more time together before the ceremony?
- Do we want a slower timeline and more portraits?
- Are we more traditional, or do we prefer a private moment?
- Does our ceremony time work with sunset and lighting?
When you answer these questions honestly, the right choice becomes clear.
Final Thoughts
Your wedding day should feel like you.
Whether you choose a first look or save the moment for the ceremony, your decision should support a calm, beautiful, and meaningful day.
I’m here to help you plan a timeline that fits your vision and helps you feel present from start to finish.
Ready to plan a wedding day that feels like you?
As a Bellingham, Washington, and PNW wedding photographer, I help couples create timelines that keep the day calm, intentional, and full of emotion.
✨ If you need help deciding between a first look or a traditional reveal, I’d love to help you plan the experience that fits you best.
Inquire here: https://wanderlostimagery.com
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